Geez, just when I finish saying how much of a validator I am, you go and ask for a smack down.
Ok, here's my take. You are oviously a very intelligent man but you come off cocky and grandiose. Nothing you haven't heard before. Cockiness can be attractive to a woman in the short term but long term, eh, not so much. It would wear on me after a while (can't speak for all women of course).
I can just imagine you having the women swoon all over you at the bar, maybe even take a few home
But what about afterwards? You clearly need some mental stimulation bf not just in your pants. Probably why you are here. Makes tons of sense.
Your ex was mentally stimulating as well as physically stimulating. I'm sure she would say the same about you. You have the potential to be an amazing "catch".
BUT your aloofness, jealousy, and macho bs will get in the way everytime. You didn't fight for her, bf. Darn pride got in the way. I can imagine you going into your next R with even more walls built up around you. She HURT you and the bf we all know and love here won't put up with that sh*t. Better to be in control, right?
BS! Your control will be your demise. I DO understand why you want to move on from the ex. If that is truly what you want then you should do it. However, what have you really learned from this experience that will make you more successful in the next R/M, especially if you end up having children with the next one?

So here's the gist of it: lay off the macho stuff a touch, open yourself up to your emotions, even the horrible ones, stop comparing yourself to others (and don't tell me you don't because I know that you do), work on the self-esteem issues (yes, I mean that), be proud of who you are but not overly cocky, admit your faults and mistakes (especially to the woman in your life). Overconfidence will be tested by women. That's how we are Let's face it. You failed the test. It was a brutal test but you were not up for the challenge. I'm sure you know that and that is probably what is eating at you the most. We all have motivations and needs. All of us are far from being self-actualized, but I think it may bug you more than others