I did that twice neither time did you appreciate my calling you niave.
But truth be told you own up to your side of the downfall of your relationship. You with your I am the man so I should have.... egotistical attitude has laden you with more then your share of the burden. So ball busting is really nor required here.
I often read in the infidelity forum. And so many times you see someone who's spouse not only has other person walks away and so forth but then when other person and there relationship fizzles they move on to another person while the left behind spouse waits around for them. Sometimes it is really hard to not want to shake them into the reality that what they are waitting on is not well you know...
I posted this once on a thread in the infidelity forum
I do not think DB'ing is to be used to avoid closure. There are some here that have been doing it for years? I think it is about making sure you try. It is about showing you how to. But it is not suppose to be about living the rest of your life waiting for your spouse to see you have changed while they are out living there life.
So my thinking you have given your wife ample opportunity. You have put in unhindered effort to fix your sitch and extend your wife forgiveness. But there is a time for closure and maybe your is now.
I know I have questioned of late how over it you are( you know what I mean). And how locked down your mind is (such logical controlled unemotional wordage). But I believe you know what is right for you in this situation.
I am not pro/anti marriage nor am I pro/anti divorce. The need for both rely's on the person and the situation.
I think you are a great guy (cyberly) and know who you are well enough to know what you need to do.
And as I feel about all here you deserve happiness. And it is up to you to find it.
And I as others I am sure will stay around and cheer you on until you achieve that goal.
