blackfoot, for the record (and since I know just as much about you as the other women here), I get that you do not want to resume your R with your wife. My post somewhere from David Deida's book about How Can I Leave Him if I Still Love Him speaks to this. Just because you still have feelings for someone, doesn't mean you should still be married to him/her. This applies to both of you. Not every marriage should be saved. To the extent that I have any right to support any decision of yours that is so intimate and personal-- I certainly support and understand your desire to move ahead and not try to resurrect this marriage.
