Sorry you don't think I addressed any of your issues. I'm just a lazy, self-absorbed kind of guy who looks at life through his own lense. I guess if I can avoid a difficult subject, I'll do it.
I don't know what Eeyore type comments are.
Compounding this, I, again, arrogantly thought I knew what women wanted. Many...many of her girlfriends were extremely jealous. Nightly foot rubs, hand massages, head massages, cuddling, spooning etc. etc. since she was so tired all of the time from her job..
This pretty much describes my experience with my WS both before and after the discovery of the affair. Was it wrong? I don't know, it seemed right at the time and still does, to an extent. Zero discussion of unmet needs - well some are coming out from our MC, but my WS wants to suspend that because this is a busy time of year for her - she is a grade-school teacher and the bustle doesn't slow down until after Christmas. I don't like the thought of suspending the MC and have told her so; but my job is up in the air so I don't know if I could afford it much longer anyway. I am not very communicative right now; it is Monday morning and we had a busy weekend.
"The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places." - Ernest Hemingway, A Farewell to Arms, 1929.
