Wow, such a different perspective. The problem in my own relationship is that I am needed. I am needed for my income, I am needed to dirve the kids, I am needed to go to kids activities, I am needed to go to the store, I am needed to take care of the house, I am needed to be a roomate. I HATE being "needed". My guess to is that my wife HATES being "needed" as well, mainly the physical stuff. For most of us "need" causes resentment, loss of respect. Most people want to be "Wanted". Being "Wanted" is what makes marriage work for most of us. As a side note, most people that were abused in any way as children will have a very hard time to actually "Want" someone latere in life, and this can develop long after marriage. Being "Wanted" is VERY "Risky". You have to lay it all on the line, this is NOT unconditional love. This may be why you want to be needed, it is unconditional love, like what a dog has for it's master. The dog "needs" its master to provide for him, and the dog always bounds to meet the master, no matter what. True success in marriage requires taking risk, security KILLS marriage.
