Have you flat-out explained to her your difference in being "needed" vs "wanted? if you haven't you really should. Don't expect her to just get it. I think I came to the understanding because I was the one looking for answers and actively working on our R.
This is just my own take on things but I do believe "need" vs "want" is an integral difference in men and women. My H needs to be "needed".....I need to be "wanted". Now, in our R...I have figured out how to make him happy and how to fulfill his needs....he has yet to figure out how to show me I'm "wanted", even though I have given him specific things he could do....and basically drawn him a flippin road-map to making GEL happy.
