"About a year into my M I realized my H didn't think I "needed" him...it didn't matter that I "wanted" him"
IMHO, being needed is stronger than being wanted. Maybe it is how I define the words, if a woman says she needs me it would evoke a much stronger emotional response than saying she wants me (although being wanted is very nice too and I would not ever shrug it off just because I wanted to be needed). Perhaps both partners having both feelings is the ideal state in a relationship.
Good post GEL. I have been itching to respond more on your thread, but others seem to be giving you better advice than I could. Most of what I would give would be commiseration anyway.
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
