BF... I think your visit here to the SSM board is helpful. You bring a good message ( although I sometimes have to get past your style of delivery). We're all here because in some fashion we are stymied by the lack of desire in our marriages...and we want that attraction back. I see in my situation how my need to control coupled with my H's insecurities derailed our sex life. I see this as a general theme here.
Funny how you are riling up the men...but it's for their own good! ( ZB...your comments to your W....absolutely great...hope you continue to have fun).
On a personal note, I am sorry for the pain of your( impending) D...I hope you keep in touch here as you continue on your journey.
