I'm only posting so Betsey knows I wasn't blasting her suggestion. I think it's a wonderful suggestion. I think it would serve a person well with most anyone. I also agree with her last statement...at that point Mr. Wonderful couldn't give a rat's a$$ what I felt. Or something of that sort. Which goes hand in hand with expectations...you can't expect someone who doesn't give a rip to do anything. That's why when I'm in a bad phase with my XW I say the problem is mine and I need to deal with it in my own way. Because I can't expect anything of her. We are divorced afterall. And NYSurvivor I wasn't blasting your statement regarding what you said. Also true. But these tools are primarily useful in the setting of two people that are at a stage where they can handle it.
I'm sorry Hope. You have had a whirlwind of emotions. Have as good a day as possible. Perhaps you should try to hold your pen under your nose with just your upper lip. Try it.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
