I think we are doing more harm to you than help. Your brain is probably on overload right now. Do like I do. I really do take the advice that people give me to heart but I try not to let something that I don't agree with bother me. It is sometimes hard to do. I'm sorry if we are confusing you more than you already are. Everyone has their own opinion on how to handle something. I don't think you should say thank you if he treats you like crap.
It is really hard to give advice when my life is in such a turmoil. I think from now on I am just going to post "stay positive" and leave it at that. I am not one who you should listen to for advice. Why take advice from me? My life is so screwed up right now that I shouldn't even have the right to try and give advice.
I am all for working on a relationship. That is the mode I am in. Some people who have been through this and divorced might think different. One day I might think different. Right now I am so scared my H will decide our marriage isn't something to fight for. I want to hear everything positive. I hate the negative stuff. I need to wake up and really think about this.
Someone asked me one day if I really wanted my H back after all the mean things he has said to me in the last 8 months. My answer was yes. Some days I wonder if we really can overlook all that we have been through. I hope the answer is yes but I really don't know. I'm sure if he decides to come home it is going to be awkward. We have been apart for 8 months. No touching, kissing or anything. It is like meeting him all over again.
I guess we are the only ones who can decide what is right or wrong for us. We can listen to the advice we are given but do we really listen to it? If someone told me that I should just give up on my marriage I don't think I would listen to them. I am going to do what I want to do. Another friend who has been divorced for 8 years told me I would know when to throw in the towel. She said deep down in my heart I will know when it is over. I am not ready to give up yet. Hope, I don't think you are either. From your posts you don't sound like you are ready for that. I could be wrong.
