Betsey - I see what you're saying, but I guess part of me disagrees. I think that when two people are in a R, that there should be some okay level of expectations of the other person. Why would you be in a R with someone if you didn't expect them to treat you a certain way? And why would it be wrong to feel upset over those expectations not being met? If I can't expect anything of XH then why be with him? What point is there in a R with him if I can't have simple expecations of him? God knows he has them of me.
Anyway... He did leave a voice mail when he called yesterday. Nothing exciting but he did leave one. I just got the notice on my phone.
I sent him a text letting him know I just got it and to call when he could.
As I said to someone else earlier, I don't care what way people try to spin this, if he cared about me or the girls in a way someone in a R should, he would have made an effort. To me, right or wrong, love is determined by the level of effort you put in to it.
Yes, that's more expectations and shoulds, but I still believe it's unrealistic in a R to say that you should never have an expectation of the other person or think that they should treat you a certain way.
