Agree with trying to stay positive. Don't agree with this incredible focus on XH, changing your life for his "benefit", or justifying his behavior either way based on possible scenarios. You've spent the last whatever number of months either stressing why he didn't do something or making excuses for him why he didn't. It still says it is all about him and I feel that's because you gave up the things in your life because you thought it would make him happy. The focus needs to be on you. This is your life, not your XH's. Live it the way you should.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
