Quote: Expectation from here on out will be none. At this point, I don't even expect him to come back. That way I won't be disappointed.
Hope,
I figured it out and I think you did to.
Insert requisite disclaimer.
You have (unspoken) expectations, and when they are not met, you get upset, down, angry, etc. You expect him to call you, but don't ask him (you feel like you should not have to) and then we he does not, you get upset and react.
Or you do ask for something, a hug, a kiss, etc and then when he gives them, you are still upset, "I should not have to ask, or "it was a quick hug."
You critique and criticize every action or non-action or what he does or does not do. "He didn't come to bed, you would think he would want to spend some time with me." "He can't even take 5 seconds to call," I'll show him, by not calling.
You've made it a contest; I do this, so he should do this, why can't he do one thing? Where is he? Why is he ignoring me? Why do I have to do everything?
I know it is very simple for everyone to suggest what you should or need to do, but you really are making yourself sick and crazy, analyzing EVERY interaction or non-interaction.
Yes, it is very easy to take it personal, we are all guilty of this. I used to do this, "well she is not going to talk to me, I am not going to talk to her."
Not productive. I realize you cannot take the focus completely off him and the R, but think back to an earlier time, did you always analyze his behavior?
Somehow we all fall into the trap of analyzing and trying to predict others behavior and this is not always productive.
