Something Like "Normal"

[still.struggling]

although sometimes I still want my XW to know if something interesting occurred

Me too. I have gotten so I call my H when something interesting occurs. He doesn't seem as distant when I do this now. It is really strange. He used to say he didn't want anything to do with me but is coming around more and even still goes to my sisters house (when most of the family is there) for a haircut. Strikes me as odd.

But we aren't like our S/XS, unfortunately. I'm not sure we are really in their thoughts.

We probably are more than they let on. They just don't want us to know we are.