The holiday week went well save for Christmas day. DD's spent the morning w/me, early afternoon w/WAW, late after noon w/me & evening w/WAW. A lot of bouncing back and forth, but we survived.
The custody saga continues, but with a twist. WAW filed a custody action against me so that instead of bringing DD's home at 9PM on Tue & Thu, they stay at the apt w/her. Before WAW moved out we signed a "Separation Agreement" that she downloaded from somewhere on the 'Net. In it was a paragraph saying that we would not go to court until we tried mediation. My L filed a motion to deny the suit until we go to mediation. Her L filed a motion acknowledging the agreement, but saying that WAW signed it w/o legal counsel.
Since the time that my L filed the motion, WAW has made a 90-degree turn. She is no longer rude toward me. She tone is much more conciliatory. As a result of her suit, the 4 of us are scheduled to appear before the family conciliator. WAW doesn't want DD's to have to go to court. She's said that a few times in emails and I have agreed and left it at that. Last night I agreed and wrote, "Please tell your L to cancel the meeting."
On NY day D13 got a bug and threw up. WAW called @ 6PM to see how she was. She called back at 10 to talk to me to see how D13 was. It was a much less tense phone call than calls in the recent past.
There was some slight back tracking by WAW as she was snippy b/c she found a paper from D13 from school that I didn't tell her about. Truthfully, D13 hung in on the fridge, didn't say anything to me and I didn't know anything about it. I made a copy of the paper for WAW when she comes on Thu.
I know that some of you disagree w/this, but I continue to have communication w/OM's Mom. I sent her an e-Christmas card w/just a happy holidays type message. She replied saying "our R w/OM is very fragile right now. There may be a confrontation after the holidays." I just accepted this as information and did nothing about it. It will be interesting to see if 1) the confrontation occurs, 2) if I can tell that it occurred from WAW's behavior and 3) if OM's mom tells me it occurred.
I got a new book for Christmas, "The Art of War". It's a translation of material written in the 5th century B.C. by Sun Tsu. I'm reading it for something going on for work, but it will be an interesting read in light of the current sitch. No, I'm not at war w/WAW . . . I still love her . . . I just can't tell her that . . . or show her in the usual conventional ways.
Two interesting things happened @ a NY eve party I was at. DD's & I went to a party hosted by the parents of one of DD's friends. I know them and have been to their home before. Sometime around 1AM, the hostess of the party, after having too much champagne, told me that WAW has moved on and is not coming back. She told me that I am a "glass-half-full" type of guy and WAW is a "glass-half-empty" type of person. I asked why she thought these things and she said it was "women's intuition". I saw this as an opportunity to not get sucked into a convo with a drunk woman who had no idea as to what she was talking about. Later, somehow I got to talking with another guy's date and she challenged me to chug a glass of champagne with her. I was totally taken off guard by this, but went along anyway. I'm really not used to women initiating conversations with me. It all seemed so weird.
This Friday night I'm going to a college alumni celebration. It is both a professional and social networking event. Again, this is so unlike me to go to something like this, but I'm going. I've go nothing to lose.
