but from my perspective, WAW dictates how it's going to be
Sorry, I wasn't clear. In the recent past, WAW would email me and start the thread by stating something like I talked to DD's and we agreed to do this . . .. I've replied stating that before WAW talks w/DD's, WAW & I need to talk to agree before DD's are involved. I didn't mean to imply that I was the doormat and she was rolling over me, although that did happen back in the summer of 2004. My perspective now is WAW makes a request, I evaluate it in reference to my needs, wants and boundaries and then reply with no inflammatory or incendiary language or requests, just calmly, straight forwardly, stating my agreement or counter proposal.
Get some female friends. IRL
All of the females that I know that are my age are married. It's not my nature to just strike up a conversation w/a woman whom I don't know . . . but . . . This past weekend I was playing in our church choir and just to break out of my shell, I talked to a female musician who didn't know anyone there. I had no intention of this going any further than small talk to pass the time at the rehearsal and so I felt "safe" in doing it. Baby steps here as well. Was it Meet Joe Black that you recommended?
