be careful that you don't do something that is overly anti-DB'ing.
Don't seek or call her, but be ready to lead when she does. Set up and keep your boundaries for yourself and DD. Don't escalate, just say this is how it is. end of story.
WAW not take the initiative for any baby steps forward. I've noticed that if I do nothing and wait for her to come to me, then eventually she does. I have to go back and think about this, but from my perspective, WAW dictates how it's going to be. The part I need to think about is, did she do this when I led, or when she led?
We are still in negotiations about the DD's schedule during Christmas week. The main sticking point is that she wants DD's on Tue up until 5PM and I want them all day b/c my brother and his family are in town from VA. D15 & D13 like to get together w/my brother's D14. DD's will be w/WAW and her entire family (Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles, cousins) on Monday for the entire day. I see no reason that this cannot be reciprocated on Tuesday. I am pushing for this. The rest of the week we can split up equally and I'm fine w/that. In fact that is only what is fair to DD's.
Got an email today from WAW "What are we going to do???" [about DD's and the Christmas schedule] Dont seek or call her, but be ready to lead when she does. So I'm going to send back an email laying out a plan including parts that we already agreed on and including me having DD's on Tue.
PA D laws are different then CA apparently. here only one person has to file and make paperwork happen, 6 months later your free. In PA, WAW can request a court date two years after she moved out (Oct 2006). After that I'm not sure what happens, but I know it takes another year.
