Well so far this isn't exactly a GAL weekend. DD's are w/WAW this weekend and last night I paid bills and today I did laundry, cleaned and went grocery shopping. Whoopee!
I wore my Flyers cap to the grocery store, it's getting cold here! I was pushing the cart down the aisle and a woman said "Ooo I like your cap. I love the Flyers!" After 20 some years of not thinking about the opposite sex, it is hard for me to muster more of a reaction than "Oh, thanks." I should have started up a convo w/her. I should have asked her if she like the rule changes or if she liked clutching and grabing. I should have asked her what she thought of protecting the crease. Ok, enough hockey euphinisims.
After I got home I put the gorceries away and made a frozen personal pizza and sat down in front of the tube. "Spanlish" was on, it is one of my new favorite movies. Others have posted song lyrics here, I'd like to post the dialog from scene 22, 23 or 24 (I think) for those who have or rent the DVD.
At this point in the movie, Deborah (Tea Leoni) is leaving to visit her OM when her mother Evelyn (Cloris Leachman) approaches her.
E: May I say just one thing? D: Yes mother, one thing. Go ahead. E: Deborah, you are going to lose your husband if you don't stop what you are doing. And you will never find someone as good. There will only be men who you know are cheap and shallow and have no real warmth in their souls. You may have gotten by on those serfaces once but now, you have been spoiled by a good man! If you do not act, quickly, you will soon cement an awful fate for yourself. A life with no hope of repair which has already begun to turn desperate and dumb. Drive carefuly. D: You've done it again mother, made me hate myself . . . one of the things I can count on. E: Lately yourlow self-esteem is just good common sense. And Deborah drives off.
I know this it's hollywood, but I wish my MIL had the spine to say that to her daughter. What I took away from the movie was that I need to learn how to cook and speak spanish.
I wish my MIL had the spine to say that to her daughter.
How do you know she hasn't? Even if she did it probably had the same affect on WAW as Evelyn did with Deborah. Just another of the infinite lessons that the only thing that can change the WA's mind is the WA. Grrrrrr.
Let's both work on our weekend GAL. Mine was about as exciting as yours.
Yes prayer definitely helps. When this all first started I was amazed at how Dave's folks stepped up the plate with their son. Trying to talk to him...especially when they heard all the drinking involved. Dave wonders why his father has no opinion of ow...probably because he knows what kind of woman she really is...she had gone off on his dad...not a good way to impress any potential suitors folks...but they DEAL with her to stay close to their son.
I'm not sure sure if my in-laws have ever met the OM. It doesn't really matter to me.
On the flip-side, I have a better relationship w/OM's mother that I do w/my MIL/FIL. We email/we talk. She looks at us both as "victims". OM lived w/her until the A got to be too much of a stress in their relationship.
On another note I read BlackFoot's post on Appearing Attractive to Women #1025210 - 12/04/05 06:17 PM. It is an interesting read and I wonder how my WAW would react to me being overconfident and cocky and telling WAW to stop when she is treating me in a way that I don't like. Normally I let the c*@p roll off and ingore it. I concentrate on getting WAW to open up and spew forth with what ever it is thats bugging her. And interesting 180.
It is an interesting read and I wonder how my WAW would react to me being overconfident and cocky and telling WAW to stop when she is treating me in a way that I don't like.
I too have been visiting the SSM forum lately. Very interesting reading.
I wonder how effective BF's style would work in an R where the WA appears determined to get out. Would be an interesting experiment. I think Cobra is trying the not accepting any bs route but IMO you have to accept some bs and use the Jabez style and let it roll off once in a while. A happy medium of putting your foot down for the extreme dysfuntional things but letting the only annoying things slide would be a good rule? I get the impression Cobra puts his foot down all the time and he comes off mean. Similar to when I look arrogant when I try to stand up for myself.
Are you going to implement some BF-ness into your sitch?
Check out the question that I posed to BF in the SSM forum.
Are you going to implement some BF-ness into your sitch?
I don't know. I hate rolling over b/c it makes me look like a wuss. And on the other hand I don't want to be a tyrant. So I think that I will continue to stand up for issues that I feel stronlgly about (i.e. DD's sleeping at home on school nights) and let the issues that aren't important to me (name calling, criticism of my beliefs, values) roll off. It's what makes me feel like my integrity is in tact.
Happy Birthday to me! D13 & D15 already said it to me and gave a big hug & kiss this AM. It felt good. We had some left over pumpkin pie and ice cream last night (they're w/WAW tonight). WAW won't be saying it again this year, oh well, her loss. It will be special when the choir sings to me at rehearsal tonight.
Now if only D13 & D15 can figure out where they hid my gift. They're looking forward to a snow day tomorrow. I guess they'll have all day to look for it!
Yes, this is just a ploy to get you to wish me a happy birthday, but how else would you know?
Ok, enough hockey euphinisims.
