If you consider the "extra" 8 hours that the girls are sleeping in the same house as I am, then, yeah, they do spend most of the time with me. If you look at "awake time", then I have 2 hours a week more w/D13 and 4 hours more a week w/D15.
I didn't realize the amount of time spent with the girls was so close between you and WAW. I guess I don't fully know what the current arrangement is.
but our sitch's are (in your best cookie monster voice) the "same, but different".
That is hilarious. I can do a great cookie monster voice ya know!!!! Thanks for the laugh.
How would you feel if someone told you that you had to sleep in a different house every other night?
I would hate it. And I wouldn't recommend that any separated parents take 50/50 custody to that extreme.
You're doing a great job Jabez. DBing doesn't save every marriage. But can you maybe see where it saved or protected a very important piece of *you* during this process? At a minimum, your integrity?
I see a lot of conviction in your words at how strongly you disagree with what WAW has done and continues to do. But I think you focus too much on trying to make her *see* your points. Even your Dobson letter was focused way too much on how you feel about what she has done. The way you feel is completely understandable, don't get me wrong. But with WAW, your words fall on deaf ears Jabez. Save your strength for your girls and your next R.
Your friend, Heather
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
