This year WAW had DD's for Thanksgiving dinner and I was making plans to have them for Christmas dinner at 5PM. WAW wants them for Christmas dinner at 6PM... how do I respond to this?
By saying, "No, sorry. Last year you had them for Christmas, this year it's my turn. You just had them for Thanksgiving. Would you like them for New Year's?"
Ouch! From my perspective, the reason that I spend more time w/DD is b/c WAW moved out. DD's don't spend 2 nights a week at WAW's apt, b/c in the beginning they didn't want to and now I feel that it's too much shuffling back and forth.
So, in other words, W's assessment is correct.
Obviously WAW is not going to want to come back if her perception is that of having to fight w/me. However since I'm close to delivering a Dobson letter, do I not buffer the results of our separation? Sometimes this is just too hard. So, any idea's on how to communicate w/ and validate WAW feelings?
Oh yeah, a Dobson Letter will melt her heart!
Man, you're all over the map!
Decide what you want to do. The hard line... or not. Not just decide what you want to do... but think hard first about what you can bear up in your resolve to do, OK?
