I just don't understand this. I mean that I comprehend the principles involved with an MLC and DBing, but I just don't understand why this keeps getting worse and worse.
WAW won't come to the house to open Christmas gifts with the girls and I. She will tame them to "her home" (the apt) to open gifts.
She normally has DD's on Thu PM, but one night, she has a conflict. Since I don't have DD's on Thu PM, I scheduled 2 hrs of activities for every Thu 7-9. She tells me of her conflict and asks to switch Wed for Thu. I say I have a conflict too, but OK. She says it's OK they can stay home while you're out. WTF? Can't they stay at the apt while she is out?
This all began 16 months ago w/WAW saying, "This is about me and my happiness". It seems that she more selfish, self-centered and self-absorbed than ever. Where does it all end? How does one deal w/a 43-yr-old teenager that you can't parent?
I've come to the conclusion that there are two prongs to DB'ing. One for the WAS and one for the LBS. DB'ing seem not to work on the WAS in a majority of the WAS's which makes the DB'ing prong for the LBS even harder, but more important. In my case, early on, I felt that DB'ing wasn't the right medicine for my WAW. It's like putting a band aid on a stroke. In our society one can be forced to deal with a physical illness, unfortunately we don't feel the same way about emotion illness.
Yes, I am exasperated. Yes, I'm close to not dropping the rope, but making it into a noose and hanging our marriage from the gallows. This is so very frustrating.
