I went to see an attorney on Sat. I didn't want to do it, but I felt like I was painted into a corner by WAW. Let me just say that I am pre-disposed to view attorneys as a non-productive element of our society, so my thoughts and comments are colored as such. No, I've never had reason to be in contact w/an attorney before all this broke loose, so I haven't had a bad personal experience with attorneys.

The attorney understands that I am still wanting to reconcile w/WAW and he started talking about LRT and a strategy similar to the Dobson letter. This actually eased my feelings about being there.

I've noticed that after each physical step of this process, I've been able to detach a little more.

You were debating there for a while about asking the girls' opinions on where they wanted to live and/or what they thought the arrangements should be. What did you decide about asking them?
BTW, are they in counseling?

The attorney recommended that I not discuss this with the girls, and so I won't. D13 has gone to see 3 different counselors and has come to the conclusion that she doesn't want to do it and it is a waste of her time. D15 has gone to 1 counselor and come to the same conclusion. The last counselor said that it may do more harm than good for a teenager to be forced to go to counseling. So at the present, neither the girls or I are going to counseling. I don't know about WAW, but I doubt it.

I borrowed "He's scared, She's scared" from the library on Sat. I've read the first 3 chapters and am not sure if it is applicable to our sitch. One point that may be applicable was the statement that CP's feelings are triggered by events such as first time ML, marriage talk, birth of the first or last child etc. This may be applicable to WAW. I also was "heartened" to read that we all have fear of commitment to a certain degree. I am concerned about how all this will affect my feelings in my next R, whether that be w/WAW or someone else. When I get there, I be better able to judge whether my feelings about commitment are healthy caution or phobic.

Thanks for stopping by.