HG, WCB, thanks for stopping by and the kind words. After 2 days on the downside of the roller coaster, today I feel a little more "level". Sometimes I'm able to deal w/my own sitch in a way that doesn't affect my emotional and physical being. Sometimes I'm able to put my sitch on the back burner and read others' posts and offer something that may help. Sometimes things are so illogical (I'm an IT geek, we live on logic and problem solving) in my sitch, that even though I know and have practiced these behavioral mods, I still spring a leak. It's at these times, I appreciate the empathy of others' on the DBBB. Thank you.
I know you told me that you feel the girls need a primary home and if I recall correctly, you said every other weekend with WAW would be reasonable to you.
Back to the autumnal colors.
Yes, the girls do spend every other weekend w/WAW. They also spend Tue & Thu from 5PM-9PM w/WAW. She wants to change the schedule to have them sleep over on Tue & Thu PM.
Starting from the top, what I think is reasonable is:
1) For WAW to look inside herself and see why she was so unhappy in our M. She says it wasn't me, so identify it and see if there is a way to remedy it. I don't think she's done that. After that, see how that affects our R/M. If that turns out positive, then let's see if the 4 of us can be a family again, b/c that is certainly in the best interest of the girls. (Oh how I hate that phrase.)
2) I know that's a lot to chew on, so let's just start at leaving the schedule that way it is b/c the girls are used to it. It offers them some semblance of "normalcy" b/c they start and end each school day at the same place. I'm not a child phych, but I know that I would not want to start and end each school day in a different place.
So basically what we are asking here is, is it in the best interest in the girls to start and end each school day from the same place, they only home they've known, or for the girlst to spend 2 extra "awake" hours for D13 and 4 extra "awake" hours for D15 w/their mother?
Comments from any and all mothers are welcome and appreciated.
