On Wed, I received a letter from WAW's attorney outlining requested changes in the custody sitch. If we couldn't resolve it by Fri she was going to file a complaint. The attorney that I've consulted with is out of the office until tomorrow (Oct 18), so I had to ask for an extension. The letter that I received was full of false accusations. I thought that the law was interested in the truth and therefore attorneys would be interested in the truth, I don't understand.
On Sat BIL came to visit me. I had sent a birthday card to him in mid-Sep and he left a message to say thank you. He stopped by soon after, but I wasn't home. We had a nice visit and did some catching up. I hadn't seen him since last Halloween and last talked to him on the phone in Jan. We couldn't talk about the sitch b/c D13 was home. Next time, if we're alone, I'd like to ask what his perception of the sitch is and how WAW's family sees the sitch. I'd also like to tell him why I think this is happening. Deep down, I have to understand why I want to tell him this. Is it b/c I want to "recruit" him to my side? Is it b/c I want him to "work on" WAW for me? Is it b/c I am "speaking the truth in love"? Is it OK to have hope that something good may happen as a result of telling him, but have no expectation of something happening? WAW is still dead set on a D. Could such an action be damaging to any potential reconciliation?
I could use some insight from anyone who has experience with custody disputes as well as any suggestions for the sitch in general. I'm feeling a lot like I've failed at busting this D. My circle of 5 supporters tells me that I'm doing great and that I've given WAW way more space and time than they would have. I wonder, have I been too kind to WAW? I wonder what my DB'ing efforts have had on the sitch. On the surface, it appears that our M is doomed, but w/o DB'ing would the sitch be worse?. I'm stuck. I just don't know what to do.
