Thought you had gone quiet for a while. I guess sometimes it's easier to deal with the situation by trying not to think about it too much
Quote: Do I have to be a biatch to get what I want?
Yes LL you do. It's called setting boundaries and it feels like being a biatch because that is something you are not used to doing. It is something I'm not used to either and as a result my H walks all over me, gets exactly what he wants from me. Because he behaves like a pig when I don't do the things he wants so I do the things which mean he won't behave like that. I have been piss poor at doing the same thing to him.
You know how sometimes when you set a boundary for your kids you feel like mean mommy from hyell but you know you have to do it so they learn what they can and can't get away with. It's the same thing. And it's hard and we all hate doing it but I guess we have to. Have you ever noticed how all the real biatches have their men eating out of their hands?
Sit yourself down (I'm going to do this too) and make a short list of the things you will and won't accept from H then whenever he crosses the line bring on the Biatch in all her fury. Doesn't mean you can't be a sweetie-pie when he's nice.
take care
Fran
p.s. I have been hanging out in SSM if you want to come visit.
Last edited by haphazard; 02/01/0607:36 PM.
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