Forgot to mention as it was done before I was asked to keep a daily log of interactions...I did make note of it (well not the how just that I knew) on antother thread
I contacted the old OW...if h is involved with anyone it's not her...
I simply called her and stated "h is having an a I just wanted to know were you that specail or is it someone new"
she was in shock...told me a lot about her life now and then and how she regretted a lot of things etc etc. How for a long time she hated my h.
she even called me the next day and left a message for me to call her back...
she said "after talking to you I though I should feel like...I told you so..ha ha...but instead I'm really sad"
I assume that her feelings are probably different than she'd expect because she's moved on and found what she was looking for (though she did end up Ding her h she's got a bf that sounds good for her) so there's no satisfaction in the pain of another.
Knowing that it's not her is both helpful and harmful...
it's helpful because it could very well mean there's no one harmful because if there is someone it's someone new and that just means h is a repeat offender. Yes it would be a repeat if it were the same ow but more understandable...if they had something they had something.
Things aren't terrible they just aren't the way I'd like them to be.
