Just to let you know I am reading along. I think it will take a few days of details to figure out something different.
One thing I note is that you tell what happened in broad strokes, but capture none of the conversation/interaction you have with H. I'd like to hear a bit more how these conversations go.
What does H. say when he's popping over to friend's house? How do you respond? etc. I'm guessing that there is something in the way the communication happens that there may be room for something different.
For example, you say " h brought son home so he could venture off to friends house to watch football. " What if you had plans to meet a friend? Does H. ask you about your schedule? Do you ask him to watch the kids on Sat. or Sun. afternoon because you've got plans?
It's all the same question really - I think we need to hear the conversation between you two.
Anyways, I'm glad you're game and I am hoping we can find something to try!
