Quote: I know, I know . . . you've already done that.... so I go back to my original question - what are YOU going to do with this advice of yours?
If I knew that my h were having an A I'd pack his bags and be rid of him.
I don't KNOW that he's having an A...I simply KNOW that the R is not working...I know that I'm willing but he seems only to be willing to go with the status quo and expects me to be happy with it.
If I didn't have two small children involved I'd not be posting here I'd be packing my bags and leaving. Why should I continue to try when my h doesn't seem to want to.
I didn't try to accept his a and abandonment for him to come home and go right back to the way things were...
As far as blaming myself for his A? never did...sure I was a typical wife who wanted her h home for dinner or to spend some time with his children but H's affair had little to do with me. He can't handle life...he simply went from OW to paxil. Maybe I should go on paxil and then we'll live happily ever after.
