Quote: if your position is truly that you no longer want him if he is currently having an affair - and you are CLEAR on that in your own mind - then I think it's reasonable to try to find out the truth.
Been there, Done that, not going through it again.
Quote: some people have downloaded keystroke logger programs onto their computer so they can see what H has typed.
I don't believe it would be a computer thing...h only uses the computer for weather and sports news...I'm the one that checks the emails.
Quote: You might enlist a friend to spy on H when you think he might be having an opportunity to stray. (or a local fellow DBer?)
because h is self employed he has the opporuntity all day every day...he leaves the house at 6am and doesn't return until 6:30pm his last A took place all during the day.
Quote: Check cell phone records. (I know some people on the board have managed to do this even when their spouse hid the bills, most companies have a feature where you can check it online, not sure how to go about doing this, but someone here probably knows.)
The bills all go to his office and last check there the cell bills do not have a call log. I could go on line and look but don't want to mess up the way he currently does things...to the best of my knowledge he handles the bills the old fashion way and my creating an account on line with the #'s may effect that.
Quote: What time does your H have available? I would have thought my H didn't have any opportunity - I found out about his affair by accident from the computer. If I HAD had suspicions, I would only have been able to catch him at lunchtime from his work.
As I said...ALL DAY LONG!! he's the boss, often works alone going from apointment to apointment, stops at the bank and post office etc. No accountability involved in his job...he could be anywhere at anytime during the day.
