I recall hearing the same sentiments you refer to...don't know if it was a book or just a realization.
Quote: Are you able to have good, honest communication with your H?
Not unless it has nothing to do with him and even then...
Can you take baby steps to create that if not now?
done with it...he's a wall and I'm tired of bouncing my ball off of him
I personally want to reach a point where if I have any concerns (suspicious, fears, sadness, anger, anything negative) I can voice them in a loving way and my H will LISTEN and validate and WANT to make me feel secure.
That's what I want as well...thought we were on our way there after his return home but it seems to have slowly ended and now reached a point of taboo.
If H feels secure with your love toward him but is not doing the same for you, he needs to understand the consequences of it.
he feels pretty secure...believes I will not do the same that he did..at least knows I will not have sex with anyone. Consequences? he also knows I'm all talk and I'm going no where...can't make him leave without legal action and he knows I'm not ready for that..so he can pretty much do as he pleases.
