Andy and girls arrived 9.45am on the dot. Makes a change for him. On the way there I told him that the people at dance class aren't aware of my sitch. I just told them that I have 4 kids and the dad is called Andy (true, I'm sure you'll agree), so I asked him not to introduce himself as my ex.

He nodded but looked pissed off and said I was 'lying' to people. I said no, I just didn't tell them and that's not the same as lying. I said to him 'why should everybody I meet have to know my personal life?' - it's a dance class, not a therapy room!

I got angry really quickly, because I wasn't asking him to say he was my husband, just to say he was Andy, or their daddy, but not 'ex' (I hate that term). I said 'Do you want to go with us or not?'

He said
'Yes, I didn't mean it like that.'

I think in reality he was pissed at me for saying I wasn't going to his dad's funeral. He said
'You said you were going before, why have you changed your mind?'

I said
'No Andy, I just didn't say anything; you assumed I would go. I can't with OW there.'

He said it was about his dad, not me or him or OW. I dropped the subject and luckily the teacher forgot her keys and had to go back and get them so we were sat outside the hall for 30 minutes waiting, and we both calmed down before the class started.

I asked him how he was about his dad and he talked briefly about it (the kids were there), then I introduced the children to my friends who have never met them, and introduced Andy to everyone.

It was a Halloween dance session today and everyone had to act out goblins and monsters etc. I caught Andy smiling at me when I was pretending to be a 3-headed monster with DD4 and DD3.

Then the teacher got out these different coloured scarves and told us we had to use them to create different Halloween creatures. I used a black one with stars on as a cape and a green one over my face as a witches costume, and DD1 used a blue one as a wizard's cape.

Andy turned DD4 into a huge green catapillar and he put 1 scarf on as a cape and another one, he tied round his head like a turban!

When the teacher asked us what we all were, I answered
'I'm a witch, but then they know that already!'
and everyone started laughing!

Then she asked Andy what he was, and I answered for him
'He's Bin Laden!'

Everyone roared with laughter, even Andy! He did look a bit like Bin Laden with the turban and his beard! LOL.

The teacher took a photo of us together (I've got it here) - apart from DD2 and DD3 who didn't want to be in the picture.

On the way out, DD4 started crying because she wanted to go with daddy, so I told him he could take her to his aunties (he is discussing the will with her) and that I'd meet up with him later.

He agreed, looked at me with those 'God-I-really-want-to-shag-you' eyes (I hate it when he does that, really confuses me), reached out and touched my arm, then I waved them off, and used my free time to go grocery shopping.

Got in a couple of hours later, sat down, made a few phone calls and then they all barged through the door again! All my millions of shopping bags were backing up in the hall. He looked preplexed and said
'You can't have carried all those home, surely?'
'No' I said, 'I didn't.'
'What did you do then?'
'That's what taxi drivers are for', I laughed.

Andy collapsed on the sofa, looking totally shattered, while I unpacked the shopping and put some lunch on for the girls. Made some lunch for Andy, and coffees.

The girls built an entire town out of lego bricks and played in the garden. I talked to Andy about his dad etc for a while.

DD1 fell over and scraped her shoulder badly so I put anti-septic cream on, and band aids and made her drink water with camomilla in it (pain relief) - she was howling for about an hour

Andy asked if I'd look after them Saturday and Sunday night (he's organising the funeral). I said yes, but only if he had DD4 Friday night because I have to go to the clinic at 8am next day. He said yes.
That's quite something, we don't normally swap them, never have, from what I remember.

Then he fell asleep on the sofa and I did too (we are both shattered). I woke up a few minutes later and found his arm round me and he kinda snuggled in closer. I was thinking, are you unconscious?? But he opened his eyes and kissed me on the top of the head.

Then DD1 and DD2 came in complaining that those boys were throwing stones at them so Andy went out to reprimand the boy and his mother came out and started yelling swear words at Andy (no wonder those lads are so awful with a mother like that) and I shouted across the street for her not to talk to Andy like that and keep her boys away from my daughters.

She drove off after giving us both the finger. Delightful woman.

Then they left and I'll be seeing them tomorrow evening.

Jo.