That's my upset noise...at you Jo. He is making a ton of effort. Everything you wrote says he wants you to be there. He said the appropriate thing..."as your FIL" and you blew it off with "not any more". Forgive me, I'm with Andy. Can't you be around OW for this occasion?
What if you said.."will you hold my hand for the procedure" and he said..."I wouldn't feel comfortable with that...I'm not your husband"? Friends, if you are that, are there for each other even when the circumstances are uncomfortable. This is about the death of his father and him wanting you to be there. Don't make it about you.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
