Geeze, Jo, I can certainly understand why you wouldn't want to be around ILs or your own family even!!!! I thought you "wanted" to go to the funeral but was afraid of what others would think of you. If you don't want to go, then you definitely shouldn't. You owe his family nothing!!!!
I also understand your anger. Dealing with FIL's death has brought all of those negative feelings about family to the front.
Sorry you're going through all of this and that you feel crummy too. Take care of yourself.
BTW, all your cyber friends will also be holding your hand during your surgery.
