Jo - I think I know how you feel about the ILs. When XH and I got D, I suddenly stopped existing too. So did D11. It's hard because while married these people were my family. It's hard to go from one day hearing people tell you they love you and think you're a good person to suddenly find they want nothing to do with you, and don't even want to hear your side of the story. You have a right to be angry about it. I am. But think about this. If going to the funeral will give you closur with your FIL, do it. For no other reason than for yourself. Don't worry what anyone says about it. You're a strong woman and you can take it. Do what's best for you. *hugs*
