Well, when the girls were asking about the funeral and who would go, he said whom ever he and BIL invited, and DD2 asked if he was inviting me and DD4 and he said yes, but that is probably out of politeness.
He doesn't seem to need me for anything other than practical stuff and the girls didn't want to be with me, really. DD2 had a hissy fit the second night and wanted to go back with Andy, and when Andy and I were talking about me taking them to dance class, DD1 was saying she'd rather go with Andy to FIL's house to pack up his things.
She just did not look enthusiastic about having to spend anymore time with me.
I know Andy would expect me to walk in there as his ex and all his relatives who have shunned me since the split will be there. There's only BIL, really, that I can think of, who would want me there.
I will ask Andy if he needs me but if the answer is no, I'm not going.
