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I am debating over whether to go to the funeral and my gut instinct is to stay away. He was in my life for 18 years (although the last 2 only by msn messenger) and I am sure he would have wanted me to be there, but I really can't face walking in there as his ex-daughter-in-law, and a nothing to his son.




Jo, if you feel the need to go, then go. This is about you and the R you had with FIL, nothing else. You didn't get a D from FIL, just Andy. No matter what, you are an important part of the girls lives and still a part of Andy's in some manner. It is paying your respects, that's all. Don't let your preceived notions of what other's may think deter you. Hold your head high. You have a lot to be proud of.