"There are so many things that can impact the ability for a couple to be intimate with each other - emotionally and physically." Absolutely.
"I think one of the major differences between HD and LD is that HD folks are still interested and capable of making love with their spouse even if the relationship is having major issues. However, even the HD folks have their limits of desire as evidenced by NR in this thread and HP last month." Good point.
"If someone isn't given toward being HD, then that's not so very different as a gentle/sensitive man who isn't given toward being "macho man" or similarly a introverted person being an extroverted party animal." Agreed, HD/LD are fundamental aspects of your being (although it can change, perhaps more so than some other aspects).
"That does not mean that I am attempting to excuse what appears to be unkindness and uncaring from the LD spouse - I am attempting to point out that being sexual to someone who doesn't have or has lost those tendencies is not as clearcut a choice as you might think." No question about it that there are many factors and we should not point fingers and say the LD person is to blame for all the problems. I was just pointing out that maybe some LD people think that the HD person would only be willing to accept hot sex and nothing less. I think most HD people (myself included) would be willing to accept a lot less so long as there was an intent to make things better with time.
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
