This will probably come across as a little harsh. It sounds to me that you have a budding relationship and hope for a future with her. Unfortunately I don't know if it sounds like the start of a healthy relationship. It sounds like one that can only end in heartache again unless you change the dynamic. I don't think at this point that either one of you are ready to try again.
It's understandable, but not helpful, for you to continue to grill her about this affair. You are divorced! To me, the divorce decree is another way of saying that you have given up the right to keep beating that dead horse. I know you want to know all the gory details, but if it's over does it really matter? You are likely going to push her away. You have major trust issues and resentment. I'm sure she does nothing to allay these fears, but trust is something you have to work on between the two of you. Things seem on the right track, but you probably should take the advice and read the book about dealing with an affair. Don't do the..."should I just go dark on her until she tells everything about the affair?" routine.
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