I think your husband is stuck between what (he thinks) he wants and what he needs. Even outside of a R we go through this in life. To me it looked like he prepared himself for the initial contact, but couldn't help himself from doing what he needed to do. (i.e. time with you, trying to fix things in your life, relieve some guilt).
He's still figuring out where he's at, but I think he's confirming to himself where he wants and needs to be. Follow DB principles and make you the better choice. Try to avoid latching on too much. I too fight this, but it will be better in the end. My hunch is that what he thought he wanted wasn't what he expected. He's probably starting to realize what he had. It might take a little time for him to swallow his pride, a wise person would not force the issue or put it in his face.
I know I could use a good ride on a horse right now, take a ride for me.
