WCW, throw the damn book out the window. I think you did the right thing. I don't think he is leaving yet. He followed you around for a reason. He flat out doesn't know what to do, but he clearly does not want to let go of you. I think you let him know where you stand. It's his turn to decide.
You're right. You can be you without him if you have to, horses included. I know it's not what you want. It's not what any of us want, but it's also not all up to us. A big hug for you girl. So sorry, but glad you got it off your chest.