That's sure a great statement. I think if you can remember that and follow it you should be able to stay in a better frame of mind and stay level. I know - it isn't easy. Dealing with their mood swings and lack of feeling for what we want gets discouraging. But I keep remembering the wonderful guy I know my H is, and I'm seeing little fragments coming back. The hard part is to let that continue to develop within him and not push him so hard that he suppresses it again. His major LL is physical touch, we always slept touching, hugs all the time, sat next to each other touching, held hands while walking somewhere, even while riding. If I wasn't close enough he would physically move me closer. It is so hard not to touch him now, unless he moves close to me. The only time that happens is if he comes to bed or in the shower. The rest of the time we don't touch, it's weird. I can't figure out how to break that routine. Sometimes when we pass I'll let my fingers drift across him, but I haven't asked for a hug in quite a while. It's been working better for me to let him come for the touch, but in the meantime I am curling up from withdrawal. My lips physically ache for a kiss. Is that possible? I don't think I'll be able to go without a hug much longer....I'm sort of needy that way too. And maybe, here's a thought - he's been coming to me with 'excuses' to come to bed for a while, it's time I jump his bones! Oh wow! initiate? quit holding back and walking on eggshells around him. I forgot that, I've been reserved for the last few weeks while we were gone and concentrating on the competition event we were at. Hey, that's all over and we done good! Now it's time to put some fire under pot again. Thanks Hope for making me think all this stuff out in this post!


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Riding the trail less traveled.