That sounds like a pretty good time with your H. I'm glad things seem to be coming around for you. It's about time. I think the card was a good idea. It shows you care about them but they don't "have" to return anything for it. I do that for XH. I bought him a book on steaks and wrote a note saying "Hope this inspires you. Love, me" and to my surprise he still has that note sitting with his paperwork even though he just went through it all yesterday and threw out a bunch. So maybe even though they don't say it, those little things we do matter to them.
Got a question for you - I'm trying to get my mind wrapped around all this. Is this line of thinking closer to where I need to be? I know I love him and I know he loves me. I continue to be there for him, to listen and comfort and to push when needed, coming from a place of love. His mood swings, attitude, lack of concern for my needs (90% of the time), and even FF don't really matter in all this and should not affect my mood or what I'm trying to accomplish, which is getting our R back on track.
