I have one bad thing I would like to say. It came to mind because JDD wished me to remarry my XW. It got me thinking about what I wish for me and also what if I could wish or pray for something what I'd wish for you all.
And the thing I wish for is having someone in my life that brings out the best in me, that is able to share happiness with me, that loves me and shows it and that is open to receiving love from me. And when I pray for you, as bad as it may sound, I don't pray for you to be back together with your X-spouse. I don't pray for me to be back together with my XW. Because I don't know that's what is meant to be. Many of our x-spouses are in a place where they wouldn't be a healthy addition to a relationship. Without some personal work I would say that some XS would be actually take a complete/whole person and make them less. I want for you all, and myself, to have a healthy, satisfying adult relationship, and if you're deeply religious, according to God's plan.
I hope no one took that the wrong way. I think Gabe's idea is probably right. Step back, work on yourself, and be patient.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
