When I first came to these board I believed with all my heart that I would be the one that would make this whole thing turn around. It didn't and that's ok. I still believe wholeheartedly in DBing because it did work, just not the way that I had expected.
DBing took me and gave me a direction. When I thought there was no hope and nothing left to do, it gave me a purpose. In the end it only helped me, but that in itself was such a gift. When all was said and done it forced me to take a good long look at myself. I had to decide just what it was that I want for me and from a relationship. This was such an epiphany. I had not only never taken the time to answer this question for myself, I would have felt it to be a very selfish thing to do. Besides, I had children and they needed 2 parents, so if I didn't like something, I'd just get over it. No more.
So no, I have no idea where I'd be without Michele's book. What I do know now is that I am worth so much more and I will never settle for crumbs! That's what I hope for everyone here whether in their marriages or in new and improved relationships!
