I think Wes is hurting right now. He is having to adjust to losing a central R in his life and he is trying to keep positive by looking at new perspectives. Since we are his friends, he naturally wants to share those perspectives with us here on this BB so I don't think we should be telling him to move to another forum.
D and post-D is a painful place to be in, and as well as being a forum for those of us who are not 'done', we should be supportive of those LBS's who have fought the good fight and want to 'drop the rope'.
I myself walked away from Andy last time, but I would have been very upset if someone had asked me to leave here.
I know that Wes very much wants to see you reconciled with your XW, and he would like it if Andy started treating me better. If Wes had his way, he would rather his XW had not even left him.
He was merely stating his opinion on the subject of post-D R's and I'm sure not intending to put you down or anyone else on here that DB's.
I think that during these difficult times, we should all perhaps make a few more allowances for each other.
