Comments pertaining to your reality check you tried (unsuccessfully) to intiate on the bb. Many of them are still caught in the post-D fantasy of, "it is only a matter of time and the X will see the light." I guess it takes longer than 8 to 10 years.
Are you trying to prove that that this is all a waste of time?
I will prove you wrong, in my case I will continue to change and do what ever it takes to keep my family together.
I don't give up easy, I once scored 25 pts in the second half of a basketball game, we were down by 16 at the half. I refused to lose because I knew our team was better, I took a leadership role, took the chance of ticking off a few teammates just for the chance of winning.(my goal was to win) The best player on the team was not a leader, I took the chance of offending him, I told him to get his game together and bring it in the second half. We won, he iced the game with his last free throw.
If we would have lost I could have been laughed at for my extended efforts to win, maybe I would have been told to get a reality check, its just too much work and uncool to try so hard for what you want. (It was only a game, but the goal was to win)
I for one want my family together, the D papers mean nothing now, we are working together on our R and as a team to take care of our children. My real changes came after the D, so what if its post D, I will be the person she can't resist, the person she has fun with, the person she is comforted by and we will be together happily watching our grandchildren someday.
If you are not interested in getting your X back, change your focus to something positive instead of trying to convince others they are stupid for trying to win.
