Comments pertaining to your reality check you tried (unsuccessfully) to intiate on the bb. Many of them are still caught in the post-D fantasy of, "it is only a matter of time and the X will see the light." I guess it takes longer than 8 to 10 years.
Another perspective I find curious is this analyzing in regards to prior behavior. Wes is saying, "huh?" Allow me.
During the marriage, for the most part, we did not OVERANALYZE every action, reaction (some), conversation, phone call, look (well only that certain look that meant, well you know), hairstyle, conversation, question, etc.
We went through the relationship as a seemingly normal couple. We did not wonder what they were doing all day or when they would call or if they would be angry or civil or happy or ignore us. All emotions common in a relationship. We dealt (not always successfully) with the daily parts of a relationship.
We did not calculate our words or actions in hopes of getting a specific response or reaction (unless we were being a typical male jerk).
So I am curious why, now, after the marriage is over and there is no reason to be overly concerned with the actions and reactions of the other person, the LBS goes into this defensive, reactive mode?
When the person the X was first attracted to, was nothing like the person you have become?
