Hey let me say I wish you would quit changing your damn name! Since my D is just a few paper pushes away and I keep feeling like wes, or joe, or just_me (God help me), I feel nostalgic for this thread (used to read it as a panic stricken newbie who read everything on the whole board), and then when I go looking for it's words of wisdom I can't find it because of your shenanigans.
As punishment, I get to respond to stuff you guys hashed out three pages back.
Just being me and not DB'ing sounds like a great idea on the surface, and I love that though too, which is a good sign it may be BS. Since we are apparently talking about "being me" in your reactions to others, it is important to see that the process is both time and situation dependent.
In other words, what would the real "you" do at the beginning of a wonderful relationship with a beautiful person? Not some of the things the real "you" would do after being married for ten years right? I know you have no common sense, but the rest of us would refrain from wearing underwear full of holes, skipping bathing for three days and being flatulent in public early on in the R.
What would the “real” you do if someone you liked and normally got along with was crappy to you one day? The same thing you did the day before when they bought you a beer?
Relationships do require adjustments in order to work. You have to make some personal changes to get along with anybody.
Quote: My question: Do actions speaker louder than words?
I think that is supposed to apply to you, not them. If you say you can't go on being friends with your XW because it bugs you too much, but then you keep on being friends, then your actions spoke louder than your words.
Quote: What is that quote or saying," that we are islands unto ourselves"?????
No man is an island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main.
