Hey there, err, what's your name today? (Lots of happy faces from the Gabester)
I just don't get it. The cycling, that is. You seem to do wonderfully in this I'm happy with myself and detachment mode, and your R with her seems to go well in terms of positivity, etc..., then you periodically get frustrated with the limits of the R (just friendship for now), and you withdraw - for a bit.
If it were me, or actually you, Me (or I? ), I'd be 'myself' by allowing such periodic withdrawals when the pain or hurt became too much, and then rejoin when I was ready. You both seem to do much better with positivity.
My take is that pursuit is besides the point - to a certain extent - as is much of our early-stage DB steps. At this level, it seems to be about the WAS doing their work, and the LBS keeping things together and hopefully growing as individuals in the meanwhile, later deciding whether another try is worthwhile if that options arises.
The incorporation of DBing that seems important now is the GAL work, and the self-care that maintains as much positivity as possible - for oneself or Me first, and your XW and others second.
), I'd be 'myself' by allowing such periodic withdrawals when the pain or hurt became too much, and then rejoin when I was ready. You both seem to do much better with positivity. 