Seriously, that is exactly where I am right now. You know, in a strange way, you and I had a very similar thing going on. We were both spending far too much time with our Xs and ending up in the cycle of disappointment and pursuit with identical results. I have expressed exactly what you have to your X in the past month and have been trying to keep a distance.
In some ways, as long as we were conducting business as usual with our Xs there was no need for them to embark on a path of personal growth (or destruction or whatever). THEY did'nt change and WE didn't change. Only the sitch had changed. It feels unnatural to let go and it is scary. But I thing that is necessary for all concerned.
Good luck. I will come back to post when I have reset my brain. I am not there yet.
I want be like Bruce....like Bruce...I want to be like Bruce....
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The 3 laws of DBing:
1. PMA is critical to DBing.
2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical.
3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.
